yes it is Monday

Well now that I have some eye candy I am awake! Everyone got up, got dressed, and they let me sleep in! I did not roll out of bed until almost 8. It was so nice to sleep in.

Now it is back to reality. What I need to do today and what I want to do today are two very different things. I want to go outside and plant some flowers, maybe get some tomato plants in, but I have so much that I must do.

I think being a mom sucks. I so want to go play, but I have to get some work done around here.

Enough pouting. I am just going to suck it up and get moving. o.k. maybe not.

Our friend Elle called us last night and she thinks that she has found her future husband. I am just so happy for her. Elle is a good person and she deserves to have good things happen to her.

Ryans birthday is this month and Rusty and I have no idea what to get him for his birthday. If we buy him another toy, he will not play with it....unless it is a match box helicopter. I think that is part of his Autism. He can only focus on one thing and he only plays with one thing.

Rusty and I are very frustrated. We do not know what to do. Do we waste money on toys that we KNOW he wont play with? We cannot give him nothing. I thought about giving him a t.v. with a built in dvd player, but that is not fair to the girls. They never got a t.v., so I do not think that he should get one. He does not need any clothes, but he would not be happy if I gave him clothes anyway. Any ideas?

I started juicing about two weeks ago and I am starting to notice that I am dropping a few pounds and toning up. I do not need to loose any weight but I do need to tone what I have. I know that my but and thighs are not suppose to meet! I use to juice all the time and I really liked it, now that I have started juicing again, and now I am adding protein powder, I notice that I feel a lot better and that I have more energy. That is what is really important to me.

Nikki is about on my last nerve. I so want to blame the new boyfriend, I know that I can't. Nikki is not keeping her eye on the mission trip. She has put forth no effort to raise more money. I think it is time for me to take some things off Nikkis plate, sothat she will have time to focus. Nikki is the child that takes on so much and right now I think she has bitten off more then she can chew. this is one of the crappy parts of being a mom. I have to crack down and re focus her.

Well I will never be able to go and play if I do not get off the computer and get busy.

the twist and turns of life

Over the last few years my life has taken many twist and turns. In the last three year I have watched Rusty lay both of his parents to rest, I watched Rusty have a major heart attack, Rusty lost hearing in one ear, and I watched my dad die.

Never in a million years did I ever think that I would meet someone who would need me simply because of the hardships that I have been through.

The ladies name is Carla and I have never met her, however we have talked on the phone several time. Long story short, Rusty asked me to call her and I did.

Carla's husband is a veteran. He had a massive stroke just over a year ago, now his kidneys are failing, and his mind is starting to go. Carla called me on Saturday and asked me if I had time to talk. I told her that I did.

Carla asked me how I got through being the only care giver for my husband. I told that I do not know. I just did it. Yes I got depressed just like she is, but I just got through it.

Carla asked me if Rusty ever forgot who his children were. I told her no, but when I went home to see my dad before he died he did not know me 99% of the time. I also told her that my dad would yell very mean things at me. Once when I leaned over his bed to kiss him he yelled at me to go away because he did not know me!

Carla started to cry. She said her son is going through that right now. Once again Carla asked me how I handled it. I would just walk out of my dads room and try to remember that the man laying in the bed was not my dad, my dad was gone a long time ago. I would also cry and curse God.

Carla asked me how I got Rusty's V.A. benefits started, so I walked her through the process and told her who to talk to. I told her to just do everything that this guy tells you to do and you will get your benefits. I told her that the wheels turn slow, but they do turn!

Who Knew? All of my years as a military wife no one ever asked for my advice on anything. Now as a veterans wife I am able to help people because of experience. Is that why the universe slammed us with a couple of bad years. Just so I could learn something and then turn around and help someone else? Could that be my purpose? To help people by sharing my hard times, and by letting them know that they are not alone?

I do not know. I do know that when Carla calls I will pick up the phone and be rock to lean on. I told Carla to call me anytime, and I do hope to hear from her again soon.

Well good night.

productive day

Today was actually a productive day. I got some cleaning done, spent some time with good friends, and I took a nap with Rusty!

Sam finally asked Rusty if he could take Amber to the prom, and he said yes. Amber went right out and bought her dress! She looks so stunning in it! I can't believe she is old enough to go to prom!

Nikki is back from camping and she has wind chap on her face so bad. I will have to remind her to put a lot of lotion on her face. Nikki said she had a good time, and I was glad to hear that.

Nikkis boyfriend came to the door to meet Rusty and Rusty was less then nice to him. Rusty just does not like any little boys. Rusty told me later on that the new boyfriend looks like howdy doody! I about fell off my chair.

I got a call from one of our friends in Iraq, and they are still on track to be home on Saturday! I am just so happy.

Life has been good today. We had nice weather and good friends around us. I know that I could not ask for more.

go fly a kite!

Today has turned out to be a very nice day, but it did not start out that way!

My day started by Butter bolting out bed and barking. He was barking at our friend Dustin who game to pick Amber up. Once we got Amber all dressed for her paint ball trip, it hit Rusty. He said " some marine just picked up my daughter!" marines going out with our daughters is a big no no. Now we know that nothing is going on, but Rusty just can't handle the fact that his daughter is old enough to date marines!

After I pour a few cups of coffee in me, I got busy and cleaned up the house a little bit. Then Rusty and I were going to take Ryan down to base to go fishing and I was going to fly my kite.

So we get to base and we get the fishing permit, only to find out that we cannot fish on the beach! What the heck? I wanted to fish in the ocean and then I was going to go fly my kite. Fine.

We ended driving all the way back through base to go fishing down at the lake. Well I was not happy. I had spent my whole life fishing in lakes. I started looking around for an open field so that I could fly the kite. Damn it! Those children are having a birthday party in the open field.

Once the children left I ran over to the field to claim it as mine! I must say that it was nice and windy, so I had no problem getting the kite up. I so loved watching the kite soar! My kite is of a dragon fly and it looked so good up there, if I do say so myself. A lot of people stopped to look at the kite. I guess people just don't fly kites any more?

Rusty said he and Ryan had a good day. I am glad. I think Ryan has been feeling a little neglected lately. So I am glad that Ryan got some one on one time with his dad.

Tonight Dustin is cooking dinner, so I am not sure what is on the menu. I sure it will be good as long as I do not have to cook and clean up from it!

OH! the count down has begun. In exactly 7 day 3 more of our friends will be home! I am so happy. Today I even went and bought a welcome mat that says "welcome home marines!"

I going to go take a nap.

Here is a link to a kite almost like mine. My kite is Purple.

http://www.kiteskiteskites.com/kites/dragonflykite.htm

you better have it all together before.....

Our children know that if want to go somewhere or they have cooked something up that they had better have all the fact's and phones numbers before they even come to us. I expect them to take responsibility and not make me go chase down the needed info.

With that said, Nikki calls me today and said I now have a c in history. What? how does your grade go from a d to a c over night. So Nikki asks if she can go camping at the beach this weekend since she brought her grade up?

Whoa stop right there. I told her to call me back on her lunch break. I called her history teacher. Here is how the conversation went.

Me: Nikki called me and said that her grade is up to a c? How does that happen over night?

Teacher: Well progress reports come out next week, so I have been catching up on the homework and assignment that have been turned in. So when I talked to you last night those papers were not added in, and there is still more to add in before progress reports come out on Monday.

Me: so you are not sure what Nikkis grade is?

Teacher: well we will know by Monday.

Me: I am now banging my head on the wal crap shopping cart. I finally say " well don't you think that it would be a good idea to have everything done before you call a parent?

teacher: well I am doing the best I can

Me: o.k. have a great day.

What in the hell is that shit! I just laid into my daughter, and yes she was wrong to run her mouth in class, but this teacher needs to get her shit together and she needs to do it soon. We pay a lot in taxes and I expect more from the teachers then this!

So I agreed that Nikki could go camping this weekend since NO ONE really knows whather grade. I did also make it very clear that she will be re taking two of her test next Thursday. Then I asked Nikki "Do you know what happens if you screw these test up?" Nikki said " Once I wake up from you smaking me I will get my but kicked again and then I will never be allowed to go anywhere until I am 20" She is such a good girl, she knows me so well.

I so HATE teachers!

Oh more bad news. The place that use to have belly dancing lessons no longer has them. The lady I spoke with said that the teacher just walked out and never showed up again! Well great. Now what should I do? I wanted to learn to belly dance so that I could dance for Rusty!

I am off to go clean up the house. I may go out side and plant some flowers.

 

here we go again

I so happy that Rusty came home last night! It was so nice to crawl into bed with the man of my dreams. I did not put chocolate on his pillow like I had wanted. Once I got to thinking about it, I just knew that the dogs would eat it before Rusty got home! I will be happy that we can spend this evening together!

I need to explain something before I tell about what happened with Nikki last night. Nikki and I are both very strong a type personalities. However I have learned that just because I am thinking it does not give me the right to say it...well most of the time. Anyway, Nikki has not learned to keep her mouth shut.

So one of Nikkis teachers called me yesterday. I was told that Nikki got detention for chewing gum. O.K. no big deal we have all done it. Then the teacher informs me that Nikki has been mouthing off in class and is getting a d in her class! Now I am concerned.

So last night Nikki called me and asked if she could go out with some children from youth group. I told her no that her life has come to a screeching halt with smoke coming out of the breaks. She will go no where and there will be no phone calling. The teacher did tell me that Nikki could re take two of the test and that would bring her grade. So I told Nikki that with all of her activities suspended she will have plenty of time to study. Nikki informed me that she will not re take the test. If Nikki is looking for a battle of wills then it is on.

Nikki has not learned that I control her life. I did ask Amber to go talk to Nikki since Amber got into a battle of wills with me and I walked into her class room and pulled her out. Oh yes I did, I even home schooled her again for 6 months. Amber knows what I will do. Anyway Nikki would not listen to Amber.

Fine I will walk down this road AGAIN. You would think that Nikki would have learned from Amber. Once again if you only have one child you are not getting the scope of being a parent.

Ryan also learned a hard lesson yesterday. I asked Amber to cook dinner for Ryan. Ryan said that he was not going to eat. So when Rusty and I get home he says that he is hungry. That is when Amber tells us what Ryan said. We sent Ryan to bed hungry. We explained to Ryan that we are not running a restaurant and that he does not get to tells us what and when he is going to eat. Oh well..... he ate a good breakfast this morning! I use to feel guilty about sending my children to bed hungry, but Amber and Nikki survived, and now I am going down this road with Ryan.

Well I got the cleaning job! I told Rusty that I am going to use that money to pay for some belly dancing lessons. Rusty said that if I take pole dancing lessons that he would put a pole up in our room! I am going to have to look for a place that has pole dancing lessons! I also think I am going to use some of the money to go to a tanning bed.

What is going on with my font size? oh well. Tomorrow we are suppose to go down to the base. Amber is meeting up with some friends to play paint ball and Rusty and I thought we would take Ryan and Nikki out for some family time. Go fishing, I want to fly my new kite, maybe do some bumper bowling. Who knows we just want to get out for a while.

I do not think that Nikki will want to go with us since she is still mad at us. So I told Rusty that if she does not want to go that she does not have to. I don't want her to ruin our day. However I will be taking the phone and all the remote with us. There will be no sitting on the phone or be coming a coach potato.

I need to go juice, take a show and get busy with life.

 

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