going to court

I just called the company that my ex use to work for. I was calling to see if the insurance was still good. Well it is not. He is no longer working there.

I called the district attorney's office. They do not have any information on his new employer or if he is carrying medical insurance on the children.

So I asked if I could go back and change my support order. Amber will be 18 next year and she will loose all of her child support and insurance. Not that he pays it anyway, but with the order we can tack everything on to what he owes.

So now I need to call my lawyer and take my ex back to court. I want him to carry insurance on Amber as long as she is in school, and to pay for her college text books. I do not think that is being to unfair.

However that means that I have to take him back to court. Which means he will have to be served. Which means he could actually show up here for court.

I will need to be strong and have a lot of body guards. My ex has tried to hurt me, and has tried to kidnapped the children.

I will try to be strong and I will make it because I know that Rusty will be there to hold me up when I want to give up.

The girls will not be allowed to see their grandmother this summer. Since I do not know where my ex is and I cannot guarantee their safety, they will not be visiting my former mother in law. I will not take a chance of them not coming back or of him hurting them.

One thing I do know for sure is that all of the marines will be to pull body guard duty!

stuff I forgot to mention

O.K. I was asked to post some pictures of myself, so that people can see my hair. Maybe everyone can tell me why Rusty loves it so much!

Look at the picture of me hugging a marine. That is Kevin when he came home from Iraq. If you look at what is on his back it is one of the quilts that I made.

In the picture of me getting ready to kiss Rusty you will see a huge watermelon. Some girlfriends came over one night and we got to drinking and I ended up with a huge watermelon on the kitchen wall. Several times I have thought about painting over it, but that watermelon makes me laugh. That was painted while Rusty was in Iraq and I just cannot let it go.

Nikki called me last night to tell me that she got to play with pigs, drive a work truck, and that old people in Oregon do not have teeth. Well..... I just need that information at 10:30 at night!

I have these three little sign's and they say faith, hope and love. Over the weekend someone knocked off the faith sign. So I was walking around looking for faith. Everyone kept asking me what I was looking for and I told them that I am looking for my faith. One of the marines said well why are you looking for your faith, Nikki has enough for all of us!

Over the weekend one of the marines had his lap top set up. Some of the guys were looking at the pictures. So when they were done I went over to take a look at them. I so wanted to barf and cry. They were looking at people that had been blown up. I had to ask the marines to close those pictures out. I know that Rusty would not have wanted me to see that and I know that I do not want my children to see that.

Over the weekend I found out what the marine corp teaches these boys. I was shocked that they know how many different ways to make b.... Then I was given a lesson on making a few other things! What the hell? I told Rusty about this and he told me to go grab some of his marine corp books and take a look. No thank you. I thought my life was complete before I gained all of this knowledge.

Rusty went and bought a new keyboard. Dang it, I was just getting use to all of the keys sticking!

Yesterday we got a notice from the city that our grass is to high. What? we do not even has grass. We got this stuff that is green, but I would not call it grass. Besides we live in the ghetto. Yes we live a half million dollar home in the ghetto! We are the token white family, I now know what it is like to be a minority!

yesterday I asked Sam and Amber to take the kittens up to the grocery store and weighted the kittens. The kittens have to be 2 pounds before they can go back and I do not have a scale. Sam and Amber would not do it. They must get their sense of humor from Rusty.

Tomorrow is Ambers birthday. She will be 17! So we are going to go to the beach down on base. I am so hoping that there will be some hard bodies p.t. ing on the beach. We are trying to get the use of a surf board, so that all of us can try surfing. After all doesent everyone in California know hao to surf?

Ryan finally cought a break

Yesterday I finally got a hold of the head of the special ed department for the school Ryan will be going to next year.

Rusty and I had sat down and made out a list of questions. To my great surprise this teacher answered all of the questions the way we were hoping he would. Not only that Ryan had been recommended for a new program that they are starting next year!

The new class is called "life skills". The high school already has this class, and now they are starting it in junior high. The children in this class do not take "normal" classes. There will be no history or science. They only focus on stuff that will actually help them. Such things as learning how to count money, how to take the bus, how to wash laundry.

I am just so happy that Ryan will finally be able to get an education that will actually make a difference in his life.

Right now I have the house to myself, however everyone will be back tomorrow! So that gives me today to regain what might be left of my sanity.

I do have a lot of little things that need to be done today, so I will just continue to do everything one thing at a time.

Jake called yesterday to tell us that Nikki was going over to her new friends house. UMM O.K.? you guys are in Oregon! Why are you calling me to tell me all of this?

Ambers boyfriend Sam got accepted into the fire academy and he has a fire station that is sponsoring him. So now all of his weekend will be spent volunteering as a fire fighter. I am so happy for Sam. The only thing that I do not like is that the fire station that is sponsoring him is the one up in the mountain, which means if the mountain goes up then he will be fighting that fire.

Rusty has some very busy weeks ahead of him. He told me last night that he will be working late for the next two weeks and today he went in early. I so wish I could help him out.

We have ants again this year. I swear they built our house ontop of an ant hill! Last night I walked into the bathroom and the counter was moving. I am decided to just walk around with a big jug of that ortho home defense. I so hate ants!

weekends over

Well Nikki left last night for Oregon. I talked to her last night and this morning and she said that she is having a blast. I am so glad.

One of the guys asked me last night what Nikki was going to do about missing school and I just shrugged my shoulders. The teachers did give her all of the work that she will miss. I however know that  true "education" does not always come from a book. I guess what I am trying to say is that life lessons can not be tought in school.

Well my house is so trashed. I am going to take it one task at a time, and I will eventually get it cleaned up. I now know what my friend meant when she "trying to keep your house spotless is not a good use of time. Family and friend are more inportant" How true that is.

Over the weekend I told Rusty that I was going to get my hair trimmed. Rusty said " o.k., but please do not get a lot cut off, I love your hair." When I got to the beauty shop I had to stand up so that the lady could cut the back of my hair! I never realized how long it was. I only got an inch cut off.

Then last night Rusty asked me if I wanted to go out on a date with him. So we went and got some ice cream. I said " I had no idea that you liked my hair so much. First you asked me stop straightening it because you like the curls, and now you ask me to not get a lot cut off." Rusty just smiled and said " I love the way your hair falls around your face and mine while we are making love" Well, I wont be cutting my hair short, and straightening it any more.

Yesterday Amber and Sam went on a Harly run up to the national cemetary. Amber called and asked me where her grandparents grave was. She then called me back and she was crying. That was the first time Amber had been to the grave. Amber said that she gave them a kiss before she left.

Well I need to get busy and go start my day.

 

happy memorial day

Well it is Memorial day weekend. I have not done to much.

I did however go up to the cemetery . I sent Rusty an e mail with thee pictures in it. Rusty just cried. He told me thank you. Rusty said that he really is not ready to go up there yet, but he is glad that I did that for him.

Then we walked over to this section of the cometary that had all of the flags waving. I thought it was an awesome sight. I am not glad that all of these people died serving their country, but to think that someone took the time to line up all of those flags is just awesome!

On the way home from the cemetery I told Kevin that my dad taught me a very important lesson. He did not teach me this lesson by any words but by his  actions. My dad always flew our flag and when needed he would tie a yellow ribbon around the top of it. My dad never talked about the service, but he would never let someone else talk bad about our service men and women. Lord help the person that ever burned a flag around him. My dad taught me that being a proud American does not happen when it is a popular thing to do. Being a proud American is a full time job.

I can guarantee you that you that we will always have a flag flying on the front of our house. I do not know how many times a year we have to buy a new flag, but I do not count the cost.

I really do not need to be reminded what Memorial day is all about. I am living it. I am going to spend this weekend entertaining the marines and a sailor. I know the cost of war and I know the sacrifice of these  men and women.

Today I was happy to see people sleeping in. I was happy to justsit around and talk. I was happy to just be able to spend some time with out friends. This is what Memorial day is all about. It is not only about honoring our fallen hero's, but also those who are still serving.

Right now I have a group of service men and women sitting around a fire. I know that they are laughing and telling war stories. I think I am the luckiest person in the world.

the desk is done

Well I am not sure what is going on with aol. I did add captions to the photo's but they are not showing up!

Anyway I am sure you can guess which one is the before and after photo from the desk. I must say that I think the desk turned out good. This was the first time I had stripped and refinished anything. Oh I will have to add that to my list of first for the year!

We had a house fill last night. That was not to big of a surprise to me, we even had a few new people here. What pissed me off was the fact that I got up this morning and the was trashed! No one bothered to do anything, so we ants all over the kitchen. I was so not happy this morning.

I got on everyone's ass and told everyone to get up and start cleaning. I am sick of people thinking they can come here and just trash our place.

Rusty has been working a lot this week and he is getting stressed out. That is not good for his heart and the stress is taking its toll on me as well. Yesterday and today some of the guys went down and helped Rusty out. So that was a little bit of relief for him.

I am finishing up the laundry, and once all of that is done I am going to iron Rustys shirts for work. I know it is not much, but I know that he will be happy to not have to do it.

I am thinking that we are all going to head down to the lake today. I just love sitting by the water. Maybe I will even get some sun! I so hate being so pale.

Someone just came in and said that the house down the street is on fire. Well at least it was the empty house!

You know what I want? I want a girlfriend. There are some girls that come up here, but no one that I can really just hang out with. Beth and I are getting closer but for the most part I am just here doing my thing. I don't drink, so I am excluded when everyone else is drinking. I guess I am boring to them. Who knows.

Amber and Nikki are off doing their thing for the weekend. I don't expect to see either of them! I am so glad that they are starting to get a life.

Well I should be doing something. So I hope everyone has a great weekend.

 I just thought of something. Last year was the first year that Rusty and I visited his parents grave. We put flowers out and wiped off the headstone..... I am wondering if I should go do that for him this year. I know that Rusty has been working a lot and I know that last year Rusty had a hard time looking at his parents grave. Maybe I should go and just take a picture for him. Or is this something I should ask him if he would like to go? I will have to think about this.

 

I am almost done

I am finally done with the desk! I am so happy. I have the last coat of sealant on the top. I will be able to move the desk inside in just a few hours!

Last night Rusty and all of the children said that the desk looked good. That really shocked me. I do get a lot of compliments on my projects. My family mainly thinks I am crazy.

Amber and Sam are ditching school today so they will be here to help me do a lot of the heavy lifting. I will take some before and after pictures of our desk area. I just wish I would have gotten a before picture of the desk. Oh well

Rusty is working on getting a new contract so that the company he works for will be this other companies exclusive distributor of some gear. This all sounded real boring to me until Rusty said cha ching! Rusty is on salary, but twice a year he gets a profit sharing check. So, the more he ships from his warehouse the more money we make. I like that.

I have been wanting a porch swing for so long. So I mentioned to Rusty that Lowes has one on sale and he said that I can go buy it on payday. I have been waiting so long for those darn things to come down in price!

I need to star getting everything torn apart! I will be back later with pictures!