ask and you shall recieve.

Well tomorrow is Ryans birthday. He will be 13! I am not sure if I am ready to have 3 teenagers in the house. But ready or not here it comes.

Amber is now hating school. I guess some girls are really picking on her and one of her so called friends have started joining these girls.

Amber is picked on because she is 5'9" and is still as skinny as a rail. Amber is picked on because she talks to the "retarded" children and does not let people pick on them. Amber is picked on because she does not hang out with the cool kids and does not wear brand name clothes.

I however give Amber credit. Amber talks to the "retarded" children because she has a brother who is "retarded". Amber buys clothes that she can afford and those do not come with fancy labels.

Nikki is bitching because I volutold her to help my property manger do some work. Nikki does not have a job yet, so she does not know what it is to work for money. She is going to find out this week. Nikki is also mad because I am making her put half of the money towards her trips.

I do not blame Nikki for being upset. Once she turns 16 and gets a job she will realize what it is like to have money and how hard you have to work for it and how far it does not go. Nikki just has not gotten that life lesson yet. Amber on the other happy to work, and not have to pay taxes on it! Amber has learned that lesson.

Ryan and I went rounds and rounds this morning. Rusty finally told me to stop beating a dead horse

Every morning I have to look Ryan over and make sure that he has on nice clothes. This morning his socks did not match and he had holes in his jeans. I sent him back up to change. He comes down in pj  bottoms. I sent him back up to change, and this time I followed. Ryan finally put on a pair of shorts.

I go through this every morning. Iwas so hoping that age would change this but I cant look at his birth age. His mental age is about 8 or 9, so I guess he is acting his age.

Today I am going to finish up some laundry and then I have some running around to do. I still need to go buy a cake mix, so I can make Ryan a birthday cake. I still have no idea what to get Ryan for his birthday. What do you get a kid that plays with nothing? I did get him a new bedding set. It has helicopters on it so I am sure that he will like it. However I know that no kid wants new bedding for his birthday.

Oh well, it is time for me to hit the ground running.

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going to voicemail

Yesterday was demo day. I was so happy to see everything some together! These fine young men tore everything down in 6 hours! It had taken a regular crew 3 day's.

It was so nice to see these young men come out and support the veterans. I don't think they all volunteered, but they all had a good time.

I kept them wired on Monster and I fed them, so what more could they ask for.

Amber and Nikki volunteered to come out and help and they both did an awesome job. Amber was on camera duty and Nikki .....well she got shoved out of her job.

Nikki was in there sweeping and the marines would always take her broom from her. Then Nikki got a tile scrapper and the marines took that from her. I found out later in the day that one of the marines who was in charge told told the other marines that if they saw Nikki working that they would get in trouble.

We had one older gentlemen show and no one knew who he was. this gentlemen showed up with his tools and just started working. So I went up and introduced myself. It turns out that someone down at base sent him the e mail about what we were doing and he wanted to come out and help, since he was a retired marine.

Today I am still sore and I have a ton of house work to get done. I was lazy all weekend and gone yesterday, so everything has piled up for 4 days now.

I have managed to get our entry way, the living room, and one bathroom cleaned. The laundry is started, and there is still a ton of other stuff to do.

Today I am sending most of my calls to voice mail. I just have so much that I need to get done. I told Rusty that I would actually cook dinner for him, since he has not had a home cooked meal since last Wednesday.

I need to get busy and I am still sore from yesterday. Here is the link to photobucket account that I set up for demo day. So if you would like to see Americas finest at work go check it out.

http://s29.photobucket.com/albums/c287/noonmom/vfwpost1508/

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no more support

These are our girls. On the left is Nikki and she is the one who wants to be a missionary.

On the right is Amber and this entry is about her.

Yesterday I got a call back from the back district attorneys office.

No they will not extend her child support and insurance past 18.

Yes I can take my ex back to court and try to get the order on my own, and they would enforce the order.

However in order to take my ex back to court I would have to find him in order to serve him.

I run the chance of the judge telling us no or he could lower our support.

I run the change of my ex actually showing up in court. If this man does show up in court I will once again have to face a convicted abuser. I will have to put the children in hiding.

I know that Rusty and some of the other marines would go to court with me, and that I would be safe from him.

Rusty and I talked about all of our options. We have decided to let sleeping dogs lie. Rusty has always said that the girls would know who their true dad was because is the one that supports them and is there for them.

When Amber turns 18 (June 1) she is going to ask for a buy out on her child support. That means that any back support that is owed to her will go straight to her and not to me.

It also means that Amber will have no insurance. Amber can't get public aid because she is not pregnant, homeless or in rehab. We will figure something out.

For what ever reason, Nikki's support also goes down when Amber turns 18. Nikki will be getting a whole $30 a week for child support. What the heck am I suppose to do with $30 a week?

Well my day is calling me.

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road trip!

O.K. so people liked my idea of stealing an rv.

Lets all take a road trip. Here are the rules.

I get the r.v. and we start here in southern California.

You can bring you pet, but no hubby or children.

So e mail you city and how many pets you have. Then I will start mapping out the road trip.

I will give everyone a week to sign up for the road trip.

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what the heck

Why in the heck can't I add images this morning? I spent a lot of time looking for the right one!

Anyway......

I am not a good mom. I read all the comments saying that I am a good mom. Heck no I am not!

I have been raising children since I was 19. I am so done raising children. I want to walk away from everything. I want to steal an rv, load up my animals and my hubby and just leave. I will buy those one time use cell phones so I can call the children and then they can't call back!

So I guess I should back up and tell everyone what happened last night.

I found out last night that Amber has not ben paying on her trip.

What?

So now Rusty and I have to come up with the extra money to pay her trip off.

I still need to go wash my shoes because I put my foot so far up her ass.

Then Nikki got mad at me because I would not let her eat ice cream for dinner. Oh give me a break. I let her eat it for breakfast, so what more does this child want from me?

At least they did not bitch about dinner. Yes I know that vegans do not eat anything with a head. However the children do like fish and Rusty can't stand it, so I cook it while he is out of town.

Amber called me from school this morning and asked if she could come home. She said that she is not in the mood to deal with mean people? What? I told her no she could not come home and that there are mean people everywhere..... get over it!

Oh will some please come steal my identity.

On a good note.

I have another baby blanket to make this weekend. A very dear friend is taking in a family members new born baby. This women gives new meaning to going above and beyond the call of duty. She has two grown son's and then at 47 she had a set of twins. Now at 56 she is starting over again. This lady did curse me and said that I am not to old to have more children.

Oh no I can't. I did not like 2 a.m. feeding when I was 19, I sure do not want to do them at 37.

I am finally seeing the fruit of my labor. I have 20 marines coming up to help us do demo on Monday. I have food coming in from all over, and I think everyone is happy on that front.

I actually can't wait to for Monday to come. I so want to see all of this come together. I so need to swing a sledge hammer and destroy something.

Oh my am I happy about this? I have to admit that I miss this line of work. Shhh..... don't tell anyone. Maybe I should give up my day job and go back to the corporate world. Oh wait, my day time job sucks anyway!

Well, I have a lot of donations to pick up, and letter to print off. Life goes on.

 

Listen to your mother

If I say I told you so to my children .... does that make me a bad parent?

For the last few weeks I have been trying to get Ambers butt in gear and get a hold of this summer camp that she wants to work at. Finally Amber said well I am waiting for Sam to give me the information. That set me into a tail spin.

You are waiting on some GUY to help you. Oh no she is not! So I started pointing Amber in the right direction and started telling her who to contact. It turns out that Sam's scout master told Amber to drop his name and sure enough they called last night! Amber is so thrilled. Amber is so close to getting this job. She should have listened to me weeks ago!

I want Amber to get this job for several reasons. One is because Amber is so tied to my apron strings that sometimes I want to scream. I want Amber to get this job so she can get a small taste of what it is like to be living on her own. I want Amber to get this job because by the end of summer she could have her trip to Egypt paid off. I want Amber to get this job, so that I can finally have one child out of the house even if it is only for a little while.

I only wish Nikki would listen to me when it come to Physco mom. Last night something happened at youth group and Nikki came home crying. I still do not know what happened. I have talked to Nikki's other mom about this, but she won't say anything unless Nikki say's something to her. I suggested to Nikki that she talk to her other mom, but Nikki said no.

I did find out last night that is getting closer to going to Fiji. Deb, Nikki's other mom, said that they are almost 100% certain that they will be leading the trip. I told Deb that we will see how it goes. If the money appears then Nikki will go. Some how, some way if it is meant for her to go to Fiji the money will come.

I never knew that raising a missionary was going to be so hard. I never knew that watching my child go to these countries would break my hart. I so wish I could go with her.

I am however fully prepared to have to grab my passport to watch her get married and to see my grandchildren. I know that Nikki will meet her future husband while on the mission field.

Ryan turns 13 on the 20th! Will everyone please have pity on me. I will have three teenagers in the house! Rusty and I think that we are going to get Ryan one of those gamers chairs. We just can't think of what else to get him. He does not play with toy's. He does play with his play station 2. Ryan can ride a bike, but he does not ride the one he has. Oh my brain hurts.

Yesterday I got the bathrooms scrubbed down. I am talking about toothbrush and bleach scrubbed down. They look so nice.

Today I need to do a scrub down on the kitchen, go deliver some Easter baskets to a family I adopted, and go deliver some sponsorship letter's for Nikki.

Rusty is out of town until Sunday, so I will not be actually cooking this weekend! Three cheers for me. We always go straight vegan when Rusty is gone. I may swing by the store and pick up some fish. Rusty does not like fish so I can only cook it while he is gone. Shark sounds good right now. We will see.

 

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money

On my list of must do's today is cleaning our bathroom. This has become such a time consuming chore that I dread doing it. I love my garden tub but it is so hard to clean. I hate cleaning the shower because I can never get all the hard water spots off the shower doors. Oh well so goes my life.

So the last time we moved I got rid of Ryans bed. It was old and nasty and I thought this would be a good time to get him a new one.

So before the marines left one of them asked me if I wanted a new full size bed. At first I said no, but then Amber said that she wanted it. So I took it.

Now I had to find a frame for it. Amber has been bugging me for weeks to go buy her a frame. I kept on telling her to wait. I had been asking everyone I knew if they had a frame. Finally Lyn said that they had one and that I could have it! Score!

So yesterday we gave Ryan, Ambers old bed.... it was only a year old. Then I helped Amber set up her bed. I know I saved so much money by just waiting for the right time.

Yesterday I explained to Amber that sometimes you have to wait and talk to people. I went on to explain that Lyn had the frame and that she was so happy to get it out of her storage shed. I think a light bulb went on in Ambers head.

Yesterday Nikki got her first sponsor check and she was so happy! It really gave Nikki a boost!

Two of the marines call me yesterday. Between the two marines that I spoke with they have seen everyone that we know. I am happy to report that they are all doing well.

I got a notice from the county that our child support records are now on line. So I logged in and took a look. Then I got out my handy dandy calculator and did some figuring. Can you believe that I am only getting $37.50 a week per child, and that does not include any of his back payments? I contacted the DA's office and I am waiting to hear back from them. I am going to ask that sperm donor continue to pay child support on Amber and carry medical as long as she is in college. I am also going to ask that the children get a raise to a whole $60 a week. I do not know if I will get it, but it is worth a shot.

All of the marines that were going to come down and help us do demo can't. So now I am scrambling trying to find some marines. Yesterday I called the base Sgt.Major and he is also going to put the word out that we need marines for demo. I just know that the marines will not let us down.

Well I need to get to cleaning, and then I can finish my list of a million other things that need to be done.

 

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