Wednesday, September 24, 2008

glad not to be 19

Last weekend Jolynn and I had the pleasure of meeting a wife of one of the marines. I do use the word pleasure very loosely.

After this gal left Jolynn and I have a very interesting conversation about how to treat your husband. We then continued to laugh and we are both glad that we are not 19 any more.

At 19 I did not know shit about being a wife. At 38 I am still learning, but man my relationship with Rusty is so much better then if we had gotten together at 19.

At 38 I know better then to run  my husband down in front of his peers. At 38 I know better then dress like a tramp when we go out. At 38 I know better then to get drunk and make an ass out of myself.

Now that I am older I know that there are little things that I can do to make my husbands day's a little bit brighter.

I know that by packing Rusty a lunch,.... well, that free's up some time for Rusty.

I know that when my husband is having a bad day hamburger help will make him feel better.

I know that by making sure that his laundry is done and folded for him, that he will be set for his work week.

I know that by sending him a simple e mail to say I love you, well..... that just make his day.

I know that by holding down the fort and taking care of things at home well..... that is one less thing Rusty has to do and worry about.

Jolynn and I have both learned that treating our men like kings will reap us huge rewards.

Our husbands are more attentive to us and they worship the ground that we walk on.

I told Jolynn that it was after our conversation that I realized why Rusty does some of the things that he does. Rusty did not have to rush home and go get my meds and buy me all the food for the brat diet. Amber could have done that.

But instead, Rusty left work early, came home and went and got my meds. Rusty made sure that there would be no penicillin any where near me. Rusty really showed his love for me that day.

Another reason we do not want to be 19 again is because our sex life is great. At 19 you can not paint each other with chocolate body frosting and then laugh because your bodies are stuck together!

I so wish that when I was a young wife that someone would have told me several things to do and not do. However, I have lived and learned and because of that, I think that I am a much better wife.

I better get off here and got rape my husband before he goes to sleep.

9 comments:

lv2trnscrb said...

you would be a great mentor for those young wives!!! someone needs to teach them how to be a wife; I wish I had someone with wisdom to help me when I was young and newly married, although I was 21 and not 19, but I made tons of mistakes; I see a new ministry here for you!!!!!!!!

I'm still trying to get this wife thing down and we'll be married 28 years next month

betty

nay0114 said...

You're exactly right, but that girl will have to learn those things on her own. It's one of those things that comes with time. Live and Learn.
Take care, Chrissie

ukgal36 said...

i stole you hippy chick tag..hope you don't mind from one hippy to another... ;-)
Lyn

deshelestraci said...

You are a riot!  Truth in your words!
Traci

oquinn2004 said...

AMEN!!! I CANNOT EVEN BEGIN TO TELL YOU HOW IRRITATED I GET WHEN I SEE HOW SOME OF THESE YOUNG WIVES ACT AND TALK ABOUT THEIR HUSBANDS....I AM TOO VERY THANKFUL I AM NOT 19 ANY MORE!!!

glensfork4 said...

nope, I would not trade to be 19 again either....you don't know what the hell you are doing....!!!!

Insecurity and immaturity at that age....

Michele

hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU))))))))))))))))))))))I dont want to be 19 again either,even thoe I am not married.I also have heard tha married couples have it better when they are older.

gehi6 said...

I do think that positive regard and laughing together is very important and not angry remarks.  I think your discussion was very interesting.  I wish more would think about how to treat each other better and the example they were having on the kids.  As I wrote in my journal today, my parents' constant quarrels were a bad example to their listening children!   Gerry

lurkynat said...

Gee Kelli! beautiful article!
I think you are an awesome wife mom and friend as well as a community activist!
you are also a great mom to so many Marines!:) hugs~
natalie