Friday, January 25, 2008

I was bent but not broken

Yesterday was so bad. I am still amazed that no one got killed!

Nikki was in such rare form the she actually put a dent in the wall. Then Rusty ws taking her to school when Rusty and Nikki got into it. Nikki tries to jump out of the truck while it was moving! So back home they came.

Nikki stood in the kitchen for over an hour just yelling at me and telling my how I have screwed up her life. Then Nikki said I am going to move in Gran. That was the last straw. I finally said " If you want to go then pack your bags and get out. Keep in mind that your grandmother booted your ass out of her house once. You will always play second fiddle to hell child."

Then Ryan's teacher called me. We have Ryan's IEP on Monday. The teacher finally got a hold of OP and they told the teacher that they will not even come evaluate Ryan because they have 100 children on the waiting list. Then I was told that the nurse "rejected" the paper that we gave them concerning all that is wrong with Ryan. The nurse said that because this was written by a doctor back in 2002 that it is to old to use.

Now I am pissed. So I hang up with the teacher and I call the school district nurse. I asked what the issue was. The nurse told me "Well this diagnosis is very old". I said " Well unless someone has replaced Ryan's stem cells then nothing has changed. Have you even researched Ryan's disorder?" The nurse said that she read up on it. I hung up on her.

I call THE head of the special ed department. I was very nice on the message but I was thinking to myself "if you don't return my phone call I am going to be waiting in your office.

Later in the afternoon this lady did return my phone call. I told her everything that was going on. Karen ( special ed person) is mad now. She told me that she will be at Ryan's IEP and that she will put the nurse in her place and that she will get on op. I was glad to get a little bit of good news.

Then I had to run over to my friend Lyn's house. I made nikki go with me and told Nikki that if she showed her ass that I would beat her with in an inch of her life.

Lyn put the kettle on and we had tea and zucchini bread while we planned the boy's going away party. The we stared getting out all of her material and mixing it with my material. I think between the two of us we have enough material to make the remaining quilts! Now the two of us just have to get busy and start sewing.

Once I got home I got a phone call from Ryan's teacher. I am thinking to myself what now. Well it seems that young Mr. Nelson got himself into some massive trouble at school. He told another little boy to suck his dick! Great I can handle this right now. The teacher gave Ryan detention. Now get this... detention was eating his lunch in the class room. Hell I wish I had that type of detention when I was in school. Oh wait I went to private school, they would just beat us.

Then Amber calls me and tells me that she needs 10 pounds of flour. What? You do not even know where the kitchen is. Then I was told that she needs it for Friday. Well of coarse you do, you could never give me notice. I guess she need this flour for child development class. They are suppose to carry it around for two weeks. Fine. I went to the store and bought her 10 pounds of flour. * side note: for my uk friends that is 1/2/ a stone LOL* Then I went to the garage and went through some yard sale stuff. I found a sleeper and a bib. So I dressed up Ambers flour for her. There now she can stop her bitching.

Now I have to cook dinner. I stood over a hot stove for an hour frying chicken. Nikki and I ate and then we had to go get Ryan. We get back from getting Ryan only to discover that the cats and dogs ate the rest of chicken! great. Could anything else go wrong today?

Oh yes it can. My mother called me. She wanted to know what the hell was going on here. So I lether have it. My mom finally said " Well I guess I should stay out of this." Yes you should!

Rusty and I called Ryan down stairs and asked him what the hell happened at school. The we washed his mouth out with soap and sent him to bed.

I told Rusty that I was done for the day, and that my brain was now a bowl of mush. I headed for the tub. Now that we have a big garden tub I asked Rusty if he would like to join me. So Rusty locked our door and we took a bath together. The we had sex in the tub. That was nice! LOL

I was not even out of the tub when Dimitri called me half smashed.

Oh hell. I will save for the next entry. Today I have a ton of running around to get done, so I better get to it. I am hoping that today is a better day. But then again I don't think it could be worse then yesterday!

Can you believe that I am still here?


hugsdoodlewacky said...

((((((((((((((((((HUGSTYOU))))))))))))))))I am glad your still here,I dont want you leaving J-land.I am sorry you had such a bad day.Your daughter should relize how much you have doe for Her.I hop you have a good weekend.

lanurseprn said...

Wow what a day you had!! The tub sounds like a nice ending though.

zoepaul6968 said...

Omg you need some vallium hun and Nikki needs a personality transplant,yay for Hubby and the sex exploit in the tub,at least you had one high point lol,thinking of you zoe xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

lisa41076 said...

Awwwwww Kelli, big hugs to you ((((((((((( Kelli )))))))))))))))))) Love Lisa

lv2trnscrb said...

I like the flour/baby; so cute you dressed it up; glad the special ed person is going with you to Ryan's IEP; you need some support on your side.

I can only hope today will be much better for you!


deshelestraci said...

Oh that's a day you'd like to forget soon!  What a mess.  Good for you for fighting for your child's rights.  It's always something, huh?!

am4039 said...

oh my what a day you had. I'm so sorry.

julydarby said...

Yes, I can believe you're still here. That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger. you survived to fight another day. Congratulations! AND... it sounds like you didn't break any laws in the process... thats even better! You are superwoman!

nellieenglsh said...

Well all I can say is that using soap was not the answer and it never did Rusty or I any good as we both still used language like that.  As for Nikki going Postal how about sitting down with her and asking her what is going on, it probably sounds like teenage rebellion.  

Yes Ryan's condition may have stayed the same, but the nurse is right a reasessment should be done to ascertain if Ryan has improved or not.  It is a continous process.

!/2 a stone is 6 imperial pounds so 10 pounds is not half a stone, it is over a 1/2.  

ukgal36 said...

wow girl! you ain't kdding about the roller coaster...hang in there .. kids..can't live with 'em and can't kill 'em either...;-)

rdautumnsage said...

Kids know how to push all the wrong buttons don't they. I hope Ryan's school gets on the ball. What the hell is wrong with these people, they act like they have never had to deal with any of this. Stay strong, your in my thoughts. (Hugs) Indigo

helmswondermom said...

I don't know what to say.  What a day!  I hope things have settled down and you had a decent weekend.  

tsalagiman1 said...

I used to do casework with children, mostly teenagers, and their families.  I have had to fight my share of the "special ed battles" with the school systems here.  The only part of this scenario that I saw that was reasonable was the 2002 assessment.  It was too old to use, but THEY should have been more on top of things than that and let you know long before now.  It seems some schools don't want to provide special ed services if they can help it because it requires effort.  Oh well, it's their job, and the law says they will do it.  Unfortunately, parents have to stay on top of the schools these days, special ed or no.  My caseworker days definitely lowered my opinion of the public school system.  I'm glad Karen is supportive of you - that really helps when you can find someone in the system that will truly help Ryan.


lurkynat said...

what a week!
Iam so happy you are still around and healthy! hang in there!