Friday, December 21, 2007

yesterday was Rusty's birthday

Yesterday was Rusty's birthday. My baby turned 40. We kept it very low key. Rusty does not like "parties". So I made him some root beer glass candy. I had not made candy in a few year's and Rusty had been asking for it, so that is what he got for his birthday.

Rusty's mom and dad once told me the story behind Rusty. Rusty's mom and dad were both marines and they met in the chow hall at nas Memphis, fell in love and got married.

However they could not get stationed together. So Rusty's mom decided to get pregnant. Back then if a women got pregnant then they got out of the service. So, Rusty was their ticket to be together.

That dark cloud that has been hovering around us has moved. The other day I was so sick and worried, but now I am not.

We have lost our house.

When Rusty had his heart attack we blew through all of our savings and things just went down hill. We both made some bad decisions, so here we are.

The other day I wanted to hold on to this house, but now I don't. After a lot of soul searching I decided that this house is not worth fighting for.

The important thing is that we are all together, and that we are moving on. Rent is so much cheaper here, so that is what we are going to do.

We will rent a place for the next three years and then we are hoping to move out of state.

Rusty said that he would not move the girls out of state as long as they were in high school, so we are stuck here for another three years.

I am at peace with this decision.

We will tell the children that we are moving after Christmas.

Amber will be in Costa Rica while we move so she will be coming home to new place to live. No, for anyone reading this, we did not pay for that trip and that is not why we lost the house.

Today I am going to go talk to a friend that works for a property management company and see what she has. I do have a few other places to call as well.

I had so many journal alerts that I had to delete them, so I will be starting fresh today.

I have a lot of stuff to get done today, so I am going to go get busy.







plieck30 said...

I was going to say Happy Birthday to Rusty but maybe that is not what he feels right now with losing your house. Hope things work out for you in the long run. Maybe you will end up with something you like much better. Good luck to you both, Paula

hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU))))))))))))))))))I hope that Rusy has a nice Birthday.Things maybe tough right now for the both of you.But what matters is what you have right in front of you.Your family.God will see it that somehting good will come out of this.I pray it are both very strong.Stay posative onn the good things in life.

deshelestraci said...

Oh hon!  Whether you are at peace about it or not, it is a huge change to go through.  I am so sorry.  Our house is the reason we are having such a small Christmas.  We were in default and are on a repayment plan.  The problem here is that our mortgage payment is much cheaper than rent.  I am sorry you are losing your house.  
Prayers and blessings,

louiseb411 said...

Happy Birthday Rusty and I am so sorry about your situation. I hope you find somewhere nice to rent .Merry christmas to you all and best wishes from all of us here  louise xx

lifes2odd said...

Happy birthday to Rusty!
I'm sorry about what you are having to deal with. You're right about your situation, as long as you are together, have a roof over your heads and food on the table -- those are the most important things.
Hugs, Martha

lanurseprn said...

I lost a house in 1993! We lived in a Hellhole where there was no work. We couldn't sell the house and break even, and we couldn't rent the house out for the amount of the mortgage. So, we had to give it back and move to where there was work. We did a "Deed in lieu of forclosure" and just signed it back.
It was a very emotional time and it took me awhile to come to peace with it. Pretty soon, I realized that my "Home" was anywhere that  my family was. The "house" was just wood and glass....that's all.
So on moving day...after the truck was loaded and everything was ex hubby and I had sex in each room and said "goodbye" to the house! LOL!
It'll be ok...really it will!

lisa41076 said...

Happy Birthday to Rusty, sorry about your situation, Many Hugs Lisa

nay0114 said...

Well I kinda know what you mean about loosing your house because of divorce I will be leaving this house in October or November 2008, but I look at it positive and hope to move on. I would love to rent somewhere and not be responsible for taking care of all the fix ups. I'm use to having a husband to do all that stuff. You will all still be together so that's all that matters. A new beginning without the stress will be a load off your shoulders.
Take care, Chrissie

zoepaul6968 said...

Im sending you love and the very best hopes for you to find a lovely new house to keep you warm for the next few years hun,have a good Christmas and a bright new year,love zoe xxxxxxxxxxxx

lurkynat said...

Dear Kelli,
Thanks for commenting in my journal!Iam crushed that you are going to be moving!I am impressed totally with your attitude!Have a Merry Christmas and please consider hosting my blog a few times. You can mention things that are important to you and you can leave a link to your journal here.
Meanwhile, Happy Holidays my dear friend. I will hope that everything goes very well and happily for you and your family.

lurkynat said...

Happy Belated Birthday to Rusty!

gehi6 said...

I have never heard of root beer glass candy.  It sounds like a joke but it must be real.  One thing I like about renting as not all the big expenses become yours.  I do hope things work out for you and you find a nice enough place to live to take you through the next 3 years.  What state does Rusty want to move to?  And I hope Amber's Puerto Rica trip comes off okay.  Gerry

nelishianatl said...

This is so tragic.  I am truly sorry for what all you have been through and all that is to come.  My deepest condolences and support for all the tough decisions you have had to make.

I have NO IDEA what root beer glass candy is.  Would you explain?  So many times I've had to delete journal alerts and start over I'd gotten so far behind.  Your REAL friends will follow you even if you don't have time to comment.  I have found that petty behavior in J-Land that exists that says if you don't comment in mine, I'm not coming over to comment in yours.  Not me.  If I like you, I like you.  ANd people have lives. They're not hovering over the computer waiting for my journal entry to pop into their inbox. lol   I visit the people I like regardless because SOMETIMES things happen.  It's called LIFE where I live.  Do what you have to do my friend and take care of you,


helmswondermom said...

I'm really sorry about the house, but I am so glad that you have come to some kind of peace.  We've had some rough times and come close to having this happen to us in the past.  The way things are these days it just doesn't take much -- an illness, an accident -- and it's just really hard to recover lost ground.