Wednesday, December 27, 2006

family is over rated

Well....... I took my mom to the airport today. We had small talk until she started telling me the details of her new will. Here is that conversation:

Mom - Your Uncle John will be the executor of the will. My friend Barb will be the one making all the medical decisions. Everything I own has been put into a living trust, so that way no one can touch it.

Me - o.k.

Mom - The trust will be responsible for paying all of my medical bill and any home care that I might need. I am selling the house and right now I have a small insurance policy, but that will end when I retire.

Me- o.k.

Mom - I have set a side a few pieces of jewelry that I want everyone to have. If there is any money left in the trust it will be divided 6 ways.

Me - That sounds fair.

Mom - However I left the summer home and all of the land to your sister. However you will have to come out and and help sell off what belongs I have left.

Me - No I will not have to sell anything. That is what your executor is for. well we are at the airport. Here let me get your bag for you. I guess I will see you the next time you come out. Bye

What am I? Chopped liver? Even worse a dog that gets the scraps of everyone else's leftovers.

Rusty asked me if I was surprised. I am not surprised but I am hurt. I knew that once my dad died .... well it would either break or make mine and my moms relationship. It has broken it.

Tonight I am giving the children a special treat. I am letting them go see two movies, so they will not be home until midnight or so. Even Ryan is going with them. They are going to go see Charlotte web and then they are going to sneak into the pursuit of happiness.

 

9 comments:

lurkynat said...

dearest Kelli
I am sorry that your mother is not fair to both.. equal and split down the middle after she is gone is what I  would have expected. I hope that you can be strong through your sadness and realise that you are a very good strong woman wihta great family who can over come this.
Yours Truly, natalie

cgtperkins said...

WOW, that doesnt exactly sound fair to me! Im so sorry for you! I do believe you will get past this no matter how difficult it is. You still have your husband and your children.........she cant taks them away!!
Hugs
Carrie

lisa41076 said...

Awwwwwwww Kelli, I am so sorry your mom is'nt being fair to you , I can tell you stories of family members who did the same thing to me, just know you are an awesome person and I hope everything works out for you, Hugs Lisa

beckerb6 said...

Wow kelli that hurts. I am so sorry that happened. I really don't understand people.
I hope the kids have a wonderful time at the movies.
hugs Barbara

am4039 said...

yikes what a conversation. I'm so sorry. You don't need to be treated like that. I know how hard that must have been for you. Hugs to you.

springangel235 said...

I am so sorry your Mom hurt you this way....praying that she has a change of heart...many hugs and love,
Joyce

springangel235 said...

Meant to say too...I LOVED the photos...love them!  Hugs,
Joyce

michelleartworx said...

Mums are hard. Mine is an alcoholic and we have fallen out so long and so many times. My dog got run over and killed because of something my mum did. You do only get one mum, I love mine, I just dont like her very much, and thats enough for me. I left home at 15 and made my life the one I wanted. I accept responsibility for me.
Big love to you-take care of YOUR family, the one you want.-Unfamousx

mpnaz58 said...

Ouch!  That hurts...my mom is leaving me nothing because I didn't ask for anything.  I have a great marriage, a nice home, and like you, have worked very hard for what I have.  Just because I didn't "ask" for anything, makes me less than my siblings??  She was surprised I reacted that way.  Yeah, just call me chopped liver!  Take care...
xoxo ~myra